Scheduled day of: Scenes from a Marriage

9 Nov

I have added to my "Schedule" I loosely keep up with, a "Scenes from a Marriage," as I first did Here. So, this time, instead of being a smartass, I instead will tell this story (and I hear the sigh of relief from GMR – but, GMR! I said it would not always be about you, and me, and you and me, no really, it will not!….)



One morning while GMR, Not Quite Fat Dog, and I walked Lake Junaluska, I saw an elderly couple coming our way down the paved path; it was really as if they were standing still and we were walking towards them. The husband held onto his wife almost as if hugging onto her, but instead he was guiding her as she slowly made her way. Her left arm was limp at her side, with the fingers curled inward almost clawlike, and her sluggish steps were pigeon-toed. Her eyes turned inward, clouded, as she made those deliberate steps. Her husband stayed close to her, measuring step for step, never taking his eyes from her. I didn’t say “Good Morning,” for it felt an intrusion, but simply passed them, leaving them to their privacy.


A week and a half later, I saw them again. The woman still walked slowly, her arm still at her side, her fingers still curled; however, this time her steps weren’t as if she were trying to pull them out of mud, and the toes weren’t pulled inward as much. And in those eyes this time, I saw a flicker of something—hope? Her husband was still close by her side, this time only holding tightly onto her arm, still guiding her. He glanced up at me and I smiled; he smiled briefly and then was all hers again. The woman never looked my way; perhaps afraid to take her focus from the path ahead.


Three weeks passed. Off in the distance, I could see a couple walking toward us, but I wouldn’t know it was the elderly couple until they came close, and when I saw who it was, I smiled. This time, the woman’s steps were livelier, toes forward, and though her left arm was still at her side, she was moving it back and forth a little, and, the fingers weren’t curled in as stiffly. Her husband only lightly held onto her arm, cupping her elbow. Her eyes glittered, a smile lit up her face. Her husband smiled, too. And they both looked at me as I said, “Good Morning!” The husband answered, “Mornin’!” and the woman gave me a beautiful smile, and in that smile I saw hope and love and determination—her face shone with possibility. They both looked as if they had just shared the funniest, greatest joke they’d ever heard, as if they were about to laugh aloud at the absurdity of it all.


They passed me by, and I turned to look at them. I thought about sacrifice. I thought about how lucky some people are to have each other. What would have happened to this woman without this man to hold her up until she grew strong enough to hold herself up?


It’s been a week since I’ve seen the elderly couple, but when we walk the lake area, as we did this morning, I will keep a lookout for them. I want to see her progress. But, mainly, I want to see the look of this couple. I want to know that sometimes, somewhere, somehow, some marriages look like this one does: holding each other up, keeping side by side step by step measure by measure. Trust—that’s the word I’m searching for. And sacrifice. And maybe love is in there somewhere.


How exquisite.





Green Tip of the Day: Some interesting uses for Salt from "Green Living Tips." Remember, "going green" doesn’t have to be the "Fad of the Month Club" – it can save you money!


Healthy Living Tip of the Day: Just because one is "over-weight" does not mean they are not malnutritioned. If one’s diet is full of fatty foods, white flour foods, and sweets, and is lacking in fruits, veggies, nuts, seeds, and other healthful foods, a body can be malnourished no matter the size! Your body needs a variety of foods, and among those foods should be items with bright colors: and I don’t mean M&M’s (laughing). Think about how you FEEL; I mean truthfully–and I don’t mean how you feel as you consume a burger, fries, shake, and apple pie. I mean throughout your day. Small changes add up. Aren’t you worth taking care of yourself? I found this on – remember the old food pyramid? well apparently they are re-thinking that.


Writer’s/Editor’s Tip of the Day: Back to the continued "Story Structure, Act Two" by Alexandra Sokoloff


15 Responses to “Scheduled day of: Scenes from a Marriage”

  1. FotoTrek November 9, 2008 at 9:38 am #

    This is one beautiful love story. A true love story. A real love story. Observed and told with such warmth and compassion. So tender.

  2. Gumbo November 9, 2008 at 10:05 am #

    Ah, that is such a grand post. And I saw that couple! I think of my own parents (especially now, during my mom\’s illness), but always, they have been that equitable couple. The half that makes the other complete.

  3. Small Footprints November 9, 2008 at 11:13 am #

    Thank you for sharing this lovely story!  With the recent elections, we heard the word "hope" a lot … and while that\’s wonderful, this is where the real hope lies … in our humanity … in our love for one another.

  4. Pamela November 9, 2008 at 11:29 am #

    A very touching story Katherine, I love to see an elderly couple still close.

  5. Theresa November 9, 2008 at 1:27 pm #

    Hey Sweetie!  So good to see your comment on my space!  I do miss it here in Spaceland but got big fish to fry now!  This time next year I will be planning my graduation!  So exciting!  And living here so close to DC makes it even more exciting!!  Your Fall pics are gorgeous!!  Thanks so much for sharing them with us!  I do love this time of year.  Just finished a great cup of Tazo Earl Grey…Mmmmm…  Have a great week! – Theresa

  6. Stephen Craig November 9, 2008 at 1:35 pm #

    Dear Kathryn,  Great post!  Thank you for the link to Ms. B.  I needed a good smile!  Here is link for you.
    Have a great Sunday and
    As ever be well,
    Stephen Craig Rowe

  7. Ann November 9, 2008 at 1:49 pm #

    Font and everything is so much better! Thanks. Also nice essay about the older couple.

  8. dying2die November 9, 2008 at 4:06 pm #

    yes sum times its allso beautiful
    i was asked by a student "What does it take for a successful Marriage?"
    and i said; " just one thing TRUST"

  9. Linda November 9, 2008 at 5:35 pm #

    What a joy to read this!  I love your green tips by the way.  I\’m a little green myself and getting greener all the time.

  10. KatSoup November 9, 2008 at 9:12 pm #

    This made me happy and sad.

  11. Linda November 9, 2008 at 10:07 pm #

    What a romantic, hopeful story!  I really enjoy your green, health, and writer\’s tips.  You inspire me to write and photograph more.

  12. Michiko's November 10, 2008 at 4:53 am #

    Thank you for your kind comments Japanese thought and comments on my Japanese english You goy that LOL!
    As I gether you had bad accidents and mine too, back to 1997 the morning I was hurry to go to the golf course
    there was unmaid the gravel road on the intersection and I started speed up then I\’ve lost control of drive…and
    I trying to go to through the side way a away from the road past so many shrubs end up the school yards.
    The school care taker man in rushed coming to see me and I was alright? I was perfectly ok plus I\’m concerned about I was late for my tee up for the golfLOL! 
    The man said to me"coming out slowly from throgh the windows because the door was locked.
    I said him I must ring the golf course to tell I had an accidents in my cars etc. He realizes I was okayLOL!
    I rang my hubby and my son\’s to pick me up ….there my hubby was so shorked after three days has been sick.
    And my car was right off ..I still have the pictures I was bloody lucky ….
    The an elderly couple, I have one in here too where I lived behind the parkland I often to seen couples were like that, one day I said the man \’Are enjoy for walking" NO but I walked because my wife wanted it…and their dog.
    It\’s sad to seen people can\’t move where they wanted it.
    Well! thank you for sharing "Salt from "Green Living Tips" I became more wiser person coming see you Kathryn!
    Drive carefully…..
    Big Hugs,

  13. P November 10, 2008 at 2:12 pm #

    oh, that\’s really powerful! what a great example of marriage as a partnership. i\’m afraid chris has had to play caretaker so much early on that when we\’re old, he\’s going to be burned out.

  14. JaAG November 10, 2008 at 10:09 pm #

    Suzy and I finally got to see Bat Boy the musical. Wickedly funny, no? So where you the mom of those rotten kids? Or maybe Rev. Hightower? What part did you play?

  15. Cynical November 10, 2008 at 11:11 pm #

    Beautifully written.  I wish it could be this way for everyone.Peace, Doc

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