Are You Listening? Scene from a marriage

GMR: “Mbekr ls jasr seu sejiej;sd sljfrojeue rfjsjre jrjr?”

Me: silence

GMR: “Se l alr jelrj ase msksjf;sjf sleij ajfsejp sflsejsem.”

Me: “Uh huh.”

GMR: “Slei slje kare lseusie etc etc etc.”

Me: “Hmmmm . . .”

Later:

GMR: “What time do you want to go?” (or: “Are you almost ready?”)

Me: “Huhn?”

GMR: “What time do you want to go?”

Me: “Go where?”

GMR: Looks at me with that look

Me: Looks at him with that look then asks, “What’re you talking about? I don’t know about that.”

GMR: “I just told you the other day (or ten minutes ago).”

Me: “Huhn? What the other day(or ten min ago)? You didn’t, either. I’d have remembered that.”

GMR: *sighhhhhhhhhhhh*

Me: “When? When did you tell me!”

GMR: “I told you e8rk eakrs uarhees . . .” *electrified hum in air . . . other voices chime in . . . Me loses clarity for a moment as Me is trying to think when he said it and where and how . . . *

Me: “Huhn? Oh, um . . . ha ha . . . I wasn’t list–um . . ., er . . . um . . . ha ha . . .well . . . huhn . . . what did you say? ”

GMR: Big arse Siggghhhhh but it’s an INSIDE sigh since he doesn’t want to show he’s sighing but Me knows he’s sighing . . . can FEEL his inside sigh

Me: “I’ll be ready in twenty minutes.”

Folks. If you live with someone who works from home. If you life with someone who you know is concentrating so hard on what they are doing that they probably aren’t paying attention to what you are saying even though they are pretending to pay attention to what you are saying, they probably aren’t. Clues that they are NOT paying attention to what you are saying: “Silence. Uh huh. Hmmmmmmm.” Clues they ARE paying attention: “That sounds good. I like so and so. What time do we need to be there?”

I’m pretty sure it’s not only writers who have this scenario in their homes. Am I right? Are you listening? Are are you going “Uh huh . . . hmmmmmm. . .” Sighhhhhhh.

So . . . how goes it in YOUR house . . . ?

(shadow photo taken by me at Oregon Beach)

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